Sustaining Arousel

I have been with my partner for over 18 months. I find that he can easily arouse me but that I can't sustain this feeling for long and that once we start having sex, my mind will suddenly go blank. After sex also I end up feeling blank, or even upset or guilty instead of happy. Why could this be and is there anyway to solve this? It's becoming a big relationship problem because he thinks it's him who's not performing.

A. There are many reasons for sexual dysfunction, which is what your condition sounds like. I'm afraid it is going to take a bit of work and digging to get to the source of this issue. If you would like to have email counselling, you can get in touch with me at the address supplied or seek out a counsellor where you live. It's not going to disappear by itself but yes, a lot can be done to free you from this `emptiness' during and after sex. I think it's guilt-based but I can't tell you why without more information. In the meantime, important tip - don't let it be a problem. Tell your boyfriend it's not him and refuse to be pressured.





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